Alright people,its another edition of our 'Aunty K' segment. We get to
hear every every,and of course say/advice/recommend out of
experience.lol. This mail reached me from a blog
visitor...
NOTE: for private reasons,names used are not real. Thanks for your usual cooperation.
Dear Aunty K,
NOTE: for private reasons,names used are not real. Thanks for your usual cooperation.
Dear Aunty K,
I'm
Veronica,saw d last post on your column and I find it quite helpful..
(I'm saying this,hoping that I'd find a solution today from fellow
pumsalites. Ok, the thing is,.. I have this friend, very
close friend, in fact best friend or anything closer than that... We grew
up together and are still buddies till date.. Shortly before we got
into the university, I noticed he had this mouth odour (what we call Halitosis), I waved it off..."One of those garlic meals". I lied to
myself.
Off we went, to separate schools, only meeting during the long breaks.. And I must say,'the thing' still lingered. I couldn't summon up d courage.. I mean this is supposed to be my buddy buddy right? Well sadly the courage never came up even up till now.. I'm known to be a very blunt,bold person, but for some reason I don't know why telling him about his problem is so hard.. He's well put together,dapper most of the time,very stylish but for that problem. I'm worried that if I do,due to his temper issues,he may not take it likely and it may cause some tension between us.. I've tried doing the whole wrap-dental_care-set-as-a-birthday-present.. But I know my friend,he's very sensitive. I ended up not doing so.. Well,that's it.this is the point where I resort to your suggestions.. I want this my friend's 'on-pointedness' to be complete abeg.. Can't deal with the whole mouth thing anymore. Please help.Thanks a lot.
Off we went, to separate schools, only meeting during the long breaks.. And I must say,'the thing' still lingered. I couldn't summon up d courage.. I mean this is supposed to be my buddy buddy right? Well sadly the courage never came up even up till now.. I'm known to be a very blunt,bold person, but for some reason I don't know why telling him about his problem is so hard.. He's well put together,dapper most of the time,very stylish but for that problem. I'm worried that if I do,due to his temper issues,he may not take it likely and it may cause some tension between us.. I've tried doing the whole wrap-dental_care-set-as-a-birthday-present.. But I know my friend,he's very sensitive. I ended up not doing so.. Well,that's it.this is the point where I resort to your suggestions.. I want this my friend's 'on-pointedness' to be complete abeg.. Can't deal with the whole mouth thing anymore. Please help.Thanks a lot.
If this person is truly ur best friend den sincerely you have not bin a good friend. Do u know how much opportunities he wud hv lost because of this problem. Abeg just go and see him and tell him, dont wait till he goes mental.....u dey mess up, I feel u shd even apologise for being self centred
ReplyDeleteIf u rili be him fwend as u claim,just tell am becos d longer u wait d more pple he meets n d more dey avoid him.some pple sha
DeleteI used to have a friend wiv halithosis..me sehf ma mouth fit dey smell 1c 1c and 1 day he ws gistin and am like,uve got plaques in ur mouth same as me, so I said let's go see d dentist 2geda sinx I'm a med student,dey cn do it free 4 me and u (he's not a med student) and I pressured and evn blackmailed him to come wiv me..while d dentist ws clerkin, I whispered into hs ears d@ d dude mouth dey smell and as a sharp guy d dentist ws, he counselled d guy on evri evri form of dental health includin halithosis but neva emphasized on it..and as he ws goin,he ws given directions + stufz to prevent plaques (but in true fact halithosis) and I secretly paid 4 dem...he coded much much later wen d prob ws gone and thanked me cuz he knws how uncomfy it is to tell som1 say ya mouth dey smell
ReplyDeleteAnon 00.18 .u took d words outta my mouth mehn! Yea veronica,set him up with a dentist. U can say "hey, I wanna see my dentist,iv got free checkup today and entitled. 2 bring an xtra person,come along" .who no like oshofree? Or use style and get him a mouth spray like " heey buddy,there's ds mouthspray I got dt whenever I use ,it leave my bf 'wanting'..here,try it" . Or even make d dentist give him these things as souvenir sef...u knw pple tend to take such crious .. Gud luck.
ReplyDeletehmmmm, I was just about saying,"give him an oral-care present" till you knocked me off by saying ,U no fit.. I feel since you guys have come this far,you should have learnt your friend oo, and must have had one or two friend-fights... At least to know how to say some hard truths to him.(Except you are scared of another fight). Even if you are scared,tell him in a polite but frank way and irrespective of the outcome,your conscience will b cleared and trust me,he would make an effort to re adjust and appreciate you for what you have done.Thank you and all the best with your friend
ReplyDeleteAfter he looses his temper he'd take extra care and you would have helped him
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